Things feel different this year holiday season. Perhaps it’s the loss of my mother, although, for the last few years, she wasn’t much aware of holidays and always seemed to think it was someone’s birthday!.. which made for some fun and laughter at Thanksgiving and Christmas. “Why are we eating Turkey on my birthday?, she would ask. “I hate turkey. I prefer a corned beef sandwich”.
So many of the young people who have worked for me over the years have moved on in their lives, and new young people have taken their places. I miss the fluidity, the humor, the closeness that bound us every day. We laughed hard and worked hard. We were family. And now, I have a new family, trying to figure out how to recreate what was with what is now.
For Thanksgiving there will be three of us. Josh, Tom and myself, and Christmas will be the same. My other son lives on another planet, called Canada, and all the way over on the other side too, and I am sure, by next year, Josh will be off to his new planet somewhere, and then there will be two. Perhaps it is time to start to explore the possibilities of two, and redefine what the holiday mean for us.
I am not sad, or disappointed. I am hopeful and full of anticipation. And maybe Thanksgiving will be a Corned Beef Sandwich from now on and Christmas will be a trip to another planet.
I WISH ALL OF YOU THE BEST OF HOLIDAYS, IN WHATEVER WAY YOU DO IT, WITH WHOEVER YOU DO IT WITH, AND WHERE EVER YOU GO…